While planning for your wedding is one of the most fun and exciting times in your life, we know that it can also be quite stressful to say the least. A recent Wedding Frontier article we found tells us that the stress or hassle of wedding planning is actually the number one reason couples choose to elope!
Perhaps you’re already experiencing some the biggest challenges that come along when planning a wedding… The most common anxieties involve budget/money worries or disagreements, family involvement and difficulties with time management. And most couples experience some strain in at least one of these areas during their engagement period.
While unfortunately, there is no way to completely eliminate these stress-inducers, there are ways to deal with them quite successfully. Keep these tips in mind if some of those wedding planning headaches come your way. Our hope for you is purely fun and stress-free wedding planning!
First, take an assessment of yourself and your situation early on in the planning process. You need to be prepared for everything that comes with wedding planning, from time-management demands to even some emotional turmoil. Know what you can handle with little effort and what you can’t and consider who you can lean on for support right from the beginning.
Create a very detailed budget for your wedding day. And stick to it! Be realistic right from the start as to what you can afford, what parts of your original wedding vision will need to be cut and what substitutions can be made to still create the wedding of your dreams. In essence, be ready for give and take on some aspects and be prepared to make compromises when necessary. Being realistic upfront about what you can and can’t do, and what you can and can’t have on your wedding day, will help eliminate a ton of unnecessary stress and worry as the months progress.
And speaking of compromising, set limits on how much you’re willing to give in (and in which areas) to satisfy the wishes of those well-meaning family members and friends. Then be firm, but always cordial. And recognize when it really is more important to compromise just a little… because sometimes it’s simply better to receive the gift of a drama and conflict-free day. Just always keep in mind that you will never be able to please everyone.
Be sure to delegate tasks. There is no way you can effectively handle all the tasks involved in wedding planning by yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask thoughtfully selected friends and family members for help.
Choose a night of the week, or at least a designated time period in each day, where you don’t allow yourself to talk about your wedding with anyone, including your fiancé. Don’t let your wedding planning take over every aspect of your life from the moment of your engagement to the big day. Give yourself (and your partner) a break!
Don’t neglect yourself. You need to take time out to relax and to do fun things that have nothing to do with your wedding. Go to the movies with a good friend, get a massage or enjoy a date night with your spouse-to-be. Practice yoga once a day to relieve the underlying tension. Or get out and run in the mornings. You’ll feel healthier and refreshed enough to tackle all the anxiety… and excitement of planning your wedding day.
Finally, if you keep your focus on the true reason for the wedding day, your marriage to the love of your life, your perspective will tend to be much clearer. And don’t add to your stress by trying to make your wedding absolutely perfect. Just like everything else in life, it won’t be. But that’s okay! Be ready to roll with the punches and enjoy the moment! At the end of the day, it will be the two of you starting a whole new chapter of life together in a union formed in love. How exciting is that?!