We recently came across this quote on huffingtonpost.com: “People have been getting married for thousands of years. Why do today’s couples (mainly brides) feel so pressured to be unique?”
We love it when brides and grooms are able to find creative ways interject elements of their personalities, their loves and bits of their life history into their wedding. It’s fun to be a bit unique and to create a wedding event that breaks a little from the norm. But we do agree that couples should never feel pressured into having a wedding day that’s completely different than every other wedding.
Weddings in themselves are a tradition, a custom passed down from generation to generation. By having a wedding, you are carrying on the tradition and therefore agreeing to a certain level of “sameness”. And traditions inherently contain common elements. Many familiar customs are found in just about every American wedding event: wedding party (large or small), a ceremony followed by a reception, a meal, a cake or similar decadent dessert, music and dancing. So there are already expectations that certain elements will be “business as usual”. And that’s good! Meeting expectations makes people happy! So why feel the need to break the mold?
The internet is a major reason why couples feel the pressure to be so unique. With so many sites offering advice on unique wedding ideas, brides and grooms might feel the need to capture as many of those ideas as possible or feel compelled to go one step further than everyone else. Also, many couples are perusing photos and videos and reading details of countless weddings online, so by the time they plan their own, they already feel everything’s been done and they’re determined to have something even newer.
Another reason couples are choosing to have more unique weddings today is that they know they can! Weddings have become a bit less conventional in recent history, with some time-honored elements disappearing and fresh ideas becoming very acceptable at many weddings. And again, the internet, with its countless online retailers available for 24-7 shopping, is making it easy to find anything and everything you want to include in your wedding event!
Of course, we know that ideas found on the internet are never completely unique, as they’ve obviously all been done at least once before. However, we think it’s important to highlight your and your fiancé’s personalities in your wedding. Without allowing it to cause anxiety, we suggest that you do try to find at least one way to celebrate important aspects of your lives in your wedding, even if it’s just in a small expression. Include a treasured keepsake, choose a location that reflects your personality or add one DIY touch to your reception. Let your wedding say something about you as a couple.
But if the rest of your wedding plans seem ordinary and “normal”, that’s great too! Weddings are wonderful occasions in every shape and size. And since it will be your wedding, it will be as special and as unique as you are!
We’re happy to say we feel each and every couple we’ve filmed has perfectly incorporated personalized wedding ideas! With so many examples to choose from, here are just two couples who’ve creatively added unique touches to their wedding events: Candace and Dave made sure to include their love of the game of baseball, specifically the Philadelphia Phillies, to their wedding event at Loews Hotel. And Claudia and Gian added very one-of-a-kind aspects, including driving right into the Villa Barone Hilltop Manor reception ballroom!
December 16th, 2014
by Kristi Chapman
in Tips & Ideas